It’s fascinating how many of us struggle with something so deeply personal: our own value. We go through life, often unaware of the worth we carry within, and even more confused about how to begin uncovering it. 

Whether you're an entrepreneur, a professional, or just someone navigating life, identifying your true value can feel elusive. But what stops you from recognizing that value? Let's dig into the reasons.

The Blocks to Seeing Our Own Value

One of the primary reasons people can’t identify their true value lies in their past conditioning and limiting beliefs. From the moment we are born, we are subject to external influences that shape how we view ourselves. 

Think about it: from ages zero to five, our understanding of the world and ourselves is built on the words, actions, and beliefs of those around us: family, society, and early life experiences. 

These are the years where our mind is like a sponge, absorbing everything without filter. Whether you’re told you can succeed or are given negative labels, it all becomes part of the lens through which you see yourself.

Unfortunately, those early years often fill our lenses with fog. If the environment was limiting, those perceptions stick with us into adulthood. Your value isn’t invisible; it's just hidden behind layers of outdated programming.

The Modern Fog: Comparison Culture

In today’s world, there’s an additional layer of fog that distorts how we view our worth: comparison culture. We live in an age where social media showcases nothing but the highlights of people's lives. 

When we scroll through Instagram or Facebook, all we see is the curated, perfect version of others' realities. What we don’t see is what’s really happening behind the scenes: the struggles, failures, or insecurities. The effect is damaging.

We start to compare our lives, which are filled with both highlights and lowlights, to the highlight reels of others. We look at the luxury cars, the vacations, and the perfect smiles, and somehow, we feel "less than." 

I once knew a young man who posted a picture in front of a luxury car, projecting a certain status to the world. But in reality, he was broke. His true situation was the opposite of what he wanted to portray. We do this in different ways: presenting what we think others will value instead of discovering what we truly value within ourselves.

Uncovering Your Value: The Work Begins Within

Here’s the truth: everyone has the resources within them to become the best version of themselves. I deeply believe this. But if you can’t see, sense, or believe in those resources, they remain untapped. 

You must clear away the fog of past conditioning and stop comparing yourself to the lives of others. Only then can you start to get a clearer view of your worth. So, where do you begin?

Self-reflection

Spend time understanding your past conditioning. 

What labels were you given as a child? 

What beliefs did you pick up from your environment that may no longer serve you? 

Start challenging those thoughts.

Shift your mindset

Instead of focusing on what you think you lack, concentrate on your strengths. 

What do people admire about you? 

What comes naturally to you that others struggle with? 

Value isn't just about what you achieve; it’s about who you are.

Be mindful of comparisons

Next time you find yourself scrolling through social media, take a step back. Remind yourself that what you’re seeing is not the full picture of someone’s life. Practice gratitude for your own journey and focus on your unique path.

Seek guidance

Sometimes, it's hard to do this work alone. A coach or mentor can provide the clarity and support you need to break through limiting beliefs and unlock your potential. The transformation doesn’t happen overnight, but with the right support, it will happen.

Becoming the Best Version of Yourself

Your true value is there, waiting to be discovered. It’s not hidden in others' opinions or in a luxury car; it’s found within you. By clearing the fog of past conditioning and choosing to see beyond the comparison culture, you open up the possibility of seeing yourself for who you truly are: valuable, worthy, and capable.

Remember, your journey is unique. No two paths are the same, and that’s what makes your value irreplaceable. As you walk the path of uncovering your worth, trust that you already have all the resources you need to become the best version of yourself. And when you do, you’ll not only see your value but live it boldly.

Let’s find your true value together, follow me, and discover my L.G.E.T Mindset™ process.

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